Love Notes: “Resisting What We Need”

A friend of mine has a four-year-old who loves to play in the snow, but when it is time to get ready to go outside, he resists putting on gloves. The snow suit, boots, and hat are just fine, but he doesn’t like those gloves. Without fail, he plays for a few minutes, begins to cry because his hands are cold, and has to go inside to warm up.

Do you ever resist what you need?

This month, we will explore the theme of resistance. We’ll talk about resistance to change, resistance to cultural norms of busyness and anxiety, resisting powers that be who create systems of oppression, and more. Most of all, we will remind ourselves that we can support each other to stop resisting what we really need and to keep resisting the status quo.

Here is an exercise for you to try this month.

Part 1 – If you have resisted the status quo, who helped you? Someone picked you up for the protests. Someone taught the class that opened your eyes. Someone wrote the poem that inspired you. Someone’s courage rubbed off on you. Someone made you feel like you aren’t in the fight alone. Find a way to thank the person and tell them how they made your resistance possible.

Part 2 – If you have overcome resistance to change or to what you really need, who helped you? Someone reminded you why you need gloves so you can play in the snow. Someone encouraged you to take a break and not work so hard. Someone helped you make that New Year’s resolution actually happen. Someone listened to your fears about making a change. Find a way to thank that person for supporting you when you resisted change.  

On the Saturday before Christmas, I was registered for an art class. The morning before, I said to my husband Pete, “I don’t think I have time for that class. I still have shopping and wrapping and cooking left to do.” Pete suggestedd that the art class may be exactly what I need to lighten my spirit and engage my creativity. Sure enough, because he supported me to overcome my resistance, I had a wonderful time experimenting and creating. It’s as if I put on those gloves so I could play in the snow.  

As always, I look forward to a month of experimenting and creating with you as we help each other learn more about resistance.

Love, Rev. Kelly